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Writing To Heal 30 Day Online Writing Program Starts Today! Plus 7 Day Challenge Index…

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Thanks again to those who joined The Heart of Awakening Blog community for the 7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge focused on Cultivating Self-Compassion.  I hope you enjoyed the exploration and plan to bring this format back with other themes in mind.  Just in case you missed it, here is an index of the daily posts for you to explore or come back to in the future:

The next session of Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss and Change 30 Day Online Program, which I co-faciliate with Andrea Hylen of Heal My Voice is beginning today with a special Autumn Equinox Ceremony & Telegathering at 3 PM ET.  This call will open the group energy and space to bring in our intentions for the 30 days of writing.  Daily prompts begin on Wednesday, 9/23 and our time will include 3 additional teleclasses and a private Facebook group for community sharing.  If you are feeling called to dive more deeply into a process of Writing To Heal, I invite you to join us!  See below for details…


 

Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss and Change

A Heal My Voice 30-Day Writing Program

(With Teleseminar Support)

September 21 – October 22, 2015

REGISTER NOW

“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.” ~ Rumi

Joining a Heal My Voice program is a bit like embarking on a vision quest.  It is a journey into the core of our being.  In traditional cultures, this is done through time alone in nature; in Heal My Voice our vehicle is writing.  The intention of the Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss & Change 30-Day Program is to create a space for exploring writing as a vehicle for transforming and healing.  During this time, you will have an opportunity to:

  • receive daily support for your writing for 30 days
  • explore your own life and uncover a story that wants to emerge
  • connect with a community of authentic women and men on a journey of self-exploration
  • get to know yourself more deeply to reclaim personal power
  • discover your inner gifts
  • alchemize your pain into remembrance, honoring and joy; and
  • explore or reconnect with the Heal My Voice program to see if our upcoming 9-month book program is a right for you!

Screen shot 2012-04-06 at 7.40.51 PMThis 30-Day program with teleseminar support offers an opportunity to get to know yourself on a deeper level through the Heal My Voice process of Listening, Discovering and Exploring.  As you take this time to reflect on grief, loss and change in your life, Heal My Voice facilitators Andrea Hylen and Beth Terrence will support you in uncovering and identifying experiences and stories that wish to be expressed through self-reflection, writing and community sharing.  This program creates a container for you to go within, gain insight into your life experiences and access the gifts that emerge as we shine a light on our tender places.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi

This 30-Day Program includes:

  • Three Weekly Teleclasses with exploration and discussion on grief, loss and change and transformation
  • HMV’s Sacred Sanctuary Writing Space (Audio recordings of inspiration and silence for writing)
  • 30-Days of prompts to inspire and jumpstart your writing
  • A Secret Facebook Group for sharing and discussion
  • BONUS CALL Audio: Tips on How to Write a Book (or E-book)
  • BONUS Fall Equinox Ceremony on the Phone. Live Call and Recorded. September 21: 12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/9pm Europe

Three Teleseminars. All Teleseminars are recorded.

Wednesdays, 12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/9pm Europe (September 30, October 7, October 14)

Location: Accessible by Phone or Online Listening; Audio replay will be available

Cost: $97.00 for full 30-Day Program

REGISTER NOW

Payment automatically Registers Your Email Address.

Facebook Group Opens on September 21.

7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge! Cultivating Self-Compassion ~ Day 6

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7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge!

Cultivating Self-Compassion

Day 6

HeartBeing

“To be great, be whole;
Exclude nothing, exaggerate nothing that is not you.
Be whole in everything. Put all you are
Into the smallest thing you do.
So, in each lake, the moon shines with splendor
Because it blooms up above.” 
― Fernando PessoaPoems of Fernando Pessoa

As we’re moving into our last 2 days of this 7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge, I feel like it’s important to include a post that explores writing as a support for self-care and wellness.  We live in a busy, chaotic world.  It’s often much easier to get lost in that then stay in touch with ourselves or others.  This needs to be a choice that we make. Writing is a way we can connect with what is arising for us, what we are struggling with and what we are celebrating – it offers a way to stay present with ourselves.  In a sense it can be a bit like a meditation or certainly a contemplative practice. 

As human beings, our life consists of four basic levels: spiritual, mental, emotional and physical.  In order to create a healthy, balanced way of living, we need to give attention to each of these aspects of ourselves.  As we do so, we become able to heal the specific parts of ourselves that are in need in any given moment and we begin to create a greater sense of wholeness by attending to all aspects of ourselves.  Life is always changing and so are we, but as we deepen in our experience of ourselves, all aspects of ourselves, we begin to create a foundation for living a more joyful and balanced life.

When go through life transitions, we tend to lose the structure of caring for ourselves or we may have never even had one.  Also, when we are desiring to create a certain change in our lives,  a new structure is needed and in the transition, we are lacking a foundation to support that change.   This is a natural part of the change process.   Although there may be discomfort with the  uncertainty and instability that accompanies  change, there is an opening for a new way of being to emerge.  By being willing to look at where we are, what we have experienced and what changes we wish to bring forth in our lives, we have a great opportunity to delve deeper into ourselves and to create a new structure for living life in a more loving and conscious way.

One of the ways that I utilize writing personally and as a recommended tool for my clients is as part of building and rebuilding a holistic self-care tool box.  I believe this is a essential for living a happy, healthy and balanced life.  One specific writing technique is to do a holistic self-care review.  I recommend doing this at least monthly but some folks like to do it weekly.  If you are going through a challenging time or transition, that may be helpful for you as you work to recenter and recalibrate.  I am offer a suggested practice here, but feel free to explore and create your own holistic self-care review, too!

Daily Prompt

Caring for our whole self- body, mind, emotion and spirit, is all equally important in order to live a balanced and healthy life.  We need to focus time and attention on each part of us and our whole self.  Most of us tend to develop certain parts more than others depending on our life experiences.   We may also have been supported or discouraged from developing certain parts.  At certain times in our lives, we may need to focus attention on a specific area to assist us in where we are and what we are experiencing or in healing traumas and wounds from the past that may exist on any level.  There is no right way to heal or change.  We can proceed by developing one area or working on all at once.  Allowing our lives to guide us by being present with where we are and accepting who we are is a major part of the process.  We cannot change where we have been, but by being gentle, loving and present with ourselves in the now, we can create positive changes in our lives.  And it is this moment, which creates the next.

Take a few moments to answer these questions.  The intention of looking at each of the four levels of existence is to see how you are experiencing these aspects in your life at this time.  Notice any areas that may need attention and notice those areas that feel developed and balanced.  Also, be open to noticing and exploring any resistance that may come up about any of the levels.  Write down any ideas you have about how you can create more balance in any specific area or overall.  Also, write down anything you have done in the past, particularly before recent transitions, which may have supported you in any of these areas.

Spiritual:    Do you feel a sense of connection to your spiritual source?  Do you have a relationship with your own inner wisdom or intuitive guidance?  Do you feel you are a part of a greater whole?  Do you spend time alone just “being”? Do you have a spiritual practice, which supports you being?  Begin a list of things you can do to nurture your spirit…

Mental:  Are you satisfied with your intellect?  Can you think and express yourself clearly?   Do you have a belief system that supports you and works for you?  Are you open to new ideas without being overly impressionable?  Do you have clarity?  Are you able to stay focused? Begin a list of things you can do to strengthen you mentally…

Emotional:  Are you in touch with your feelings and able to express them appropriately?  Do you allow yourself to experience a full range of emotions or do you find you shut down certain emotions if they arise? (E.g. fear, sadness, anger, joy, love)  Are you able to set appropriate boundaries with others?   Are you able to be open and honest with others and your self about your feelings?  Can you relate to others in a close, intimate way? Begin a list of things you can do to balance and support your emotions…

Physical:  Are you physically healthy and active?  Do you feel comfortable in your body?  Do you like your body?   Do you eat a healthy, balanced diet?  Are you comfortable in the material world?  Are you practical and down to earth?  Are you financially stable?  Do you enjoy your sexuality? Begin a list of things you can do to nourish your body…

Also, consider what it is that may help your with integrating all parts of yourself.  For some people this comes from rest and relaxation, meditation, time in nature, talking with a counselor, shamanic healing, body or energy work, etc. Create a list of things that help you integrate body, mind, emotion and spirit, too!

This review can be useful in the process of creating changes in your life.  It can also be used regularly as part of a holistic self-care plan.  It is a great way to do a check-in or review of where you are in the change process.  I tend to use it monthly just to touch base with the various aspects of myself and to see where I may have moved out of balance or need to give more attention based on what is arising in my life.  It is also great to see the progress and how I have grown in certain areas as well. Begin a list of things you can do to nourish your body…

As always, please feel free to share you thoughts, feelings and reflections.

Until tomorrow.

Love & light,

Beth Shekinah


If you are enjoying this exploration of Writing To Heal, I invite you to join me and my Writing To Heal partner, Andrea Hylen for…

Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss & Change

A Heal My Voice 30-Day Writing Program (With Teleseminar Support)

September 21 – October 22, 2015

“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.” ~ Rumi

Joining a Heal My Voice program is a bit like embarking on a vision quest.  It is a journey into the core of our being.  In traditional cultures, this is done through time alone in nature; in Heal My Voice our vehicle is writing.  The intention of the Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss & Change 30-Day Program is to create a space for exploring writing as a vehicle for transforming and healing.  During this time, you will have an opportunity to:

  • receive daily support for your writing for 30 days
  • explore your own life and uncover a story that wants to emerge
  • connect with a community of authentic women and men on a journey of self-exploration
  • get to know yourself more deeply to reclaim personal power
  • discover your inner gifts
  • alchemize your pain into remembrance, honoring and joy; and
  • explore or reconnect with the Heal My Voice program to see if our upcoming 9-month book program is a right for you!

Screen shot 2012-04-06 at 7.40.51 PMThis 30-Day program with teleseminar support offers an opportunity to get to know yourself on a deeper level through the Heal My Voice process of Listening, Discovering and Exploring.  As you take this time to reflect on grief, loss and change in your life, Heal My Voice facilitators Andrea Hylen and Beth Terrence will support you in uncovering and identifying experiences and stories that wish to be expressed through self-reflection, writing and community sharing.  This program creates a container for you to go within, gain insight into your life experiences and access the gifts that emerge as we shine a light on our tender places.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi

This 30-Day Program includes:

  • Three Weekly Teleclasses with exploration and discussion on grief, loss and change and transformation
  • HMV’s Sacred Sanctuary Writing Space (Audio recordings of inspiration and silence for writing)
  • 30-Days of prompts to inspire and jumpstart your writing
  • A Secret Facebook Group for sharing and discussion
  • BONUS CALL Audio: Tips on How to Write a Book (or E-book)
  • BONUS Fall Equinox Ceremony on the Phone. Live Call and Recorded. September 21: 12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/9pm Europe

Three Teleseminars. All Teleseminars are recorded.

Wednesdays, 12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/9pm Europe (September 30, October 7, October 14)

Location: Accessible by Phone or Online Listening; Audio replay will be available

Cost: $97.00 for full 30-Day Program

Payment automatically Registers Your Email Address.

Facebook Group Opens on September 21.

See you then!

REGISTER NOW!

We will begin the program on Sept 21 by opening the doors to the secret Facebook group and by offering a Fall Equinox ceremony on the Instant Teleseminar Line. Come LIVE or listen to the recording.

Then, there will be 3 LIVE teleseminars with information sharing, meditations and community sharing. The calls will be recorded and available to everyone who is registered for the 30 days of writing.

Teleclass One: Listening: Wed, Sept 30 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern/ 21.00 Central European Time

Teleclass Two: Discovering: Wed, Oct 7 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern/ 21.00 Central European Time

Teleclass Three: Exploring: Wed, Oct 14 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern/ 21.00 Central European Time

7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge! Cultivating Self-Compassion ~ Day 5

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7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge!

Cultivating Self-Compassion

Day 5

 

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THE GUEST HOUSE

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond. 

– Jelaluddin Rumi,
Translation from The Essential Rumi by Coleman Barks

I love this poem! It speaks so beautifully to the journey of awakening and embracing all that is showing up in our lives as our teacher or guide. As you can see by now, I tend to use poetry, quotes and other writings as inspiration for explorations. Just simply reading a piece like this and doing some steam of consciousness writing can be a wonderful way to practice Writing To Heal.

Daily Prompt

Part I ~ Read the Rumi poem 3 times – once to yourself, once out loud and once while writing it in your journal or on a blank page.  I encourage to use hand writing for this rather than typing it on your computer.  How you write overall is a personal choice but there is a lot to be said for how the physical action of writing opens us or helps us connect in a deeper way.  And, remember to take your time, feel the words as your write them.

After writing the poem, highlight or underline any words that light up for you, that stir something in you or that just make you curious.  Write those words down separately in a list. I’ll share my list of what lit up today:

  • This being human
  • Every morning a new arrival
  • Some momentary awareness
  • As an unexpected visitor
  • Even if they are a crowd of sorrows
  • Treat each guest honorably
  • The Shame
  • Meet them at the door laughing
  • Be grateful for whatever comes
  • A guide from beyond

Once you’ve written your list, repeat the process of highlighting or underlining the phrases or words that light up for you.  

In case you’re wondering what I mean by “light up for you” – this is different for each person.  Part of exploring the healer within is beginning to notice how we respond to things and learning about our own inner guidance system.  So you may respond with a feeling of excitement, of joy, or even of sadness.  You may feel something in your heart or even your stomach. You may just feel a sense of aliveness when you read these words. You may simply know they are something you wish to explore more of.  You may feel a sense of expansion or even a sense of contraction and know there is something for your to look at there. 

I am suggesting to practice noticing in this way as part of this Writing To Heal exploration, however this is a practice you can carry with you into your daily life.  Begin to notice what “lights up for you”, what speaks to you and where you feel drawn to.  

So with your list of phrases marked up, continue today’s practice by choosing one or two or all of your chosen phrases or words to explore even more. As you write, be willing to connect them to your own life experience. Maybe they stir certain memories or feelings.  Maybe they are something you want to cultivate in your life. Be curious. Explore.

Part 2 ~ Exploring Shame

We can’t have any exploration of Cultivating Self-Compassion without some exploration of shame!  Since these words lit up for me today in Rumi’s poem, I thought to touch on Shame here.  Shame can be a normal healthy emotion. It kicks in when we make a mistake or do something that goes against our values.  For example, maybe you’ve teased someone in a way that was hurtful to them and then you feel badly about it.

But often, shame can become a toxic.  In this case, it not’s really a feeling anymore but a state of being.  Toxic shame is the internalization of shame to the point where the emotion shame becomes our state of being.  This leads to feelings of extreme unworthiness, isolation and self-hate. In order to Cultivate Self-Compassion, at some point we need to address our shame.  You may wish to work on this now, or you may wish to come back to it later on.  I offer this exploration as an ongoing Writing To Heal practice.

Write a list of experiences or memories from childhood and earlier adulthood that you connect with a feeling of shame.  Note whether you feel this was a “healthy” sense of shame or something that you at the time or later internalized.  Keep this list in your journal and when you have time and are willing explore each one.  Don’t hurry with this as it is pretty deep inner work!

For now choose one experience from your childhood in which you felt shame to write about.  Describe the situation.  Notice what thoughts arose with the feeling of shame. Write down any and all feelings and thoughts that you had during the experience as best as you can recall. You will probably be surprised how much can arise as your words begin to flow.  What feelings followed the experience?  Was it something you let go of or do you feel you’ve carried it with you?  How did it affect your relationship to others or the world?  Finally, write down how you think that experience of shame continues to influence you today in your life.

Part 3 ~ Celebrate You!

We’ve touched on some pretty deep explorations today. A big part of Cultivating Self-Compassion is honoring ourselves for the hard work we are doing to be more conscious and awake.  Celebrating yourself is important as you move through any healing process. Take some time today to Celebrate You!.  Perhaps there is something fun you’d like to or somewhere you’d like to go. And, if you’re not sure what a good idea is – then it’s time to create a list in your journal of Things To Do To Celebrate Me!

Until tomorrow.

Love & light,

Beth Shekinah


If you are enjoying this exploration of Writing To Heal, I invite you to join me and my Writing To Heal partner, Andrea Hylen for…

Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss & Change

A Heal My Voice 30-Day Writing Program (With Teleseminar Support)

September 21 – October 22, 2015

“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.” ~ Rumi

Joining a Heal My Voice program is a bit like embarking on a vision quest.  It is a journey into the core of our being.  In traditional cultures, this is done through time alone in nature; in Heal My Voice our vehicle is writing.  The intention of the Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss & Change 30-Day Program is to create a space for exploring writing as a vehicle for transforming and healing.  During this time, you will have an opportunity to:

  • receive daily support for your writing for 30 days
  • explore your own life and uncover a story that wants to emerge
  • connect with a community of authentic women and men on a journey of self-exploration
  • get to know yourself more deeply to reclaim personal power
  • discover your inner gifts
  • alchemize your pain into remembrance, honoring and joy; and
  • explore or reconnect with the Heal My Voice program to see if our upcoming 9-month book program is a right for you!

Screen shot 2012-04-06 at 7.40.51 PMThis 30-Day program with teleseminar support offers an opportunity to get to know yourself on a deeper level through the Heal My Voice process of Listening, Discovering and Exploring.  As you take this time to reflect on grief, loss and change in your life, Heal My Voice facilitators Andrea Hylen and Beth Terrence will support you in uncovering and identifying experiences and stories that wish to be expressed through self-reflection, writing and community sharing.  This program creates a container for you to go within, gain insight into your life experiences and access the gifts that emerge as we shine a light on our tender places.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi

This 30-Day Program includes:

  • Three Weekly Teleclasses with exploration and discussion on grief, loss and change and transformation
  • HMV’s Sacred Sanctuary Writing Space (Audio recordings of inspiration and silence for writing)
  • 30-Days of prompts to inspire and jumpstart your writing
  • A Secret Facebook Group for sharing and discussion
  • BONUS CALL Audio: Tips on How to Write a Book (or E-book)
  • BONUS Fall Equinox Ceremony on the Phone. Live Call and Recorded. September 21: 12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/9pm Europe

Three Teleseminars. All Teleseminars are recorded.

Wednesdays, 12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/9pm Europe (September 30, October 7, October 14)

Location: Accessible by Phone or Online Listening; Audio replay will be available

Cost: $97.00 for full 30-Day Program

Payment automatically Registers Your Email Address.

Facebook Group Opens on September 21.

See you then!

REGISTER NOW!

We will begin the program on Sept 21 by opening the doors to the secret Facebook group and by offering a Fall Equinox ceremony on the Instant Teleseminar Line. Come LIVE or listen to the recording.

Then, there will be 3 LIVE teleseminars with information sharing, meditations and community sharing. The calls will be recorded and available to everyone who is registered for the 30 days of writing.

Teleclass One: Listening: Wed, Sept 30 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern/ 21.00 Central European Time

Teleclass Two: Discovering: Wed, Oct 7 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern/ 21.00 Central European Time

Teleclass Three: Exploring: Wed, Oct 14 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern/ 21.00 Central European Time

 

7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge! Cultivating Self-Compassion ~ Day 3

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7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge

Cultivating Self-Compassion

Day 3

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Today, I am excited to share about one of my favorite tools for transformation and healing.  It is also one that can be misused or utilized in a way that sets us up for feelings of failure if we don’t consider the full scope of the practice. Writing offers a way to really utilize this technique. It’s AFFIRMATIONS!

Affirmations offer a powerful tool for transformation and healing. To affirm means to “make firm” and with regards to affirmations that making firm is a quality, energy or message you are working to cultivate.  Affirmations offer a way to change our inner dialogue, in a sense to short-circuit the unconscious messages or tapes that are always playing in our minds and to create new ones. This practice can transform our attitudes and our expectations.  It can also show us the negative or unconscious messages that we are carrying within us.  Affirmations can be done silently, spoken aloud, written down or even chanted. They can be posted in places you will see them, tucked in hidden places where you will find them unexpectedly or recorded so you can listen to them repeatedly.

Affirmations offer a technique to begin to transform energy and shift our feelings, patterns and beliefs.  I feel they work essentially on two levels and it’s important to include both aspects when working with affirmations to get the most benefit.  And, writing can really help us in exploring this fully…

1. Affirmations help to bring in an energy or feeling that we wish to cultivate, e.g. love, peace, joy, etc.

2. What arises when we work with affirmations shows us the feelings, patterns and beliefs, which are keeping us stuck and in pain.

This two-fold process can be a powerful way to uncover the voices of inner critic and work to transform them. There are many ways to work with affirmations including mirror work, repeating out loud, making a recording, creating a piece of artwork and of course, writing!

Daily Prompt

For today’s exercise, since our focus is on Cultivating Self-Compassion, I am going to suggest you use an affirmation similar to one of these:

  • I love myself.
  • I love and approve of myself.
  • I love myself completely as I am.
  • I am beautiful and lovable however I am feeling.
  • I am deserving of love. 

If one pops out you might like to jump in and use it.  Or, you can begin by free-writing a list of potential affirmations that relate to cultivating love and compassion for yourself.  Creating your own affirmations helps you to feel connected to it and amplifies the energy around it, so if you don’t do this today, add it to your Writing To Heal toolbox for the future!

Once you have chosen an affirmation for today’s exploration, get out a blank sheet of paper.  One the front side you will begin to write the affirmation repetitively.  This is cultivating the positive energy.  Whenever you notice a “response”, you will simply turn the paper over and write down whatever that is.  For example, you may have a voice that says, “this is selfish, to take the time for myself”, you may feel tightness in your shoulders or a headache coming on, or you may feel a wave of sadness or even tears come over you.  Jot down on the back of the page, any and all responses that you have.  Then, return to the front and continue writing your affirmation until you have another response or complete one whole side of a page.  You may even like to do this on more than one sheet. 

A few things to consider.  It’s good to take your time with this; it’s not about speed writing but actually noticing what’s arising and so sometimes slowing it down helps. Be gently and loving with yourself – lots can come up and sometimes you are just grooving on the affirmation itself. It’s all a process.

Yesterday, we explored lists or catalogs and this response list can be a great one to keep and add to your journal. You may wish to take time to write more about each one at some point – what does it feel like?, where does it come from, how might you begin to address it or respond to it in a loving, nurturing way?

One of my favorite Zen teachers, Cheri Huber, who teacher and writes a lot about working with our critical voices, suggests responding in this way when you notice a critical voice, “Is that so, how do you know that?” .  Responding in itself and questioning it, rather than just letting it have it’s way, begins to diffuse the power of this voice.  Another list you may wish to write is a list of responses to your own critical voices.  It may be a blanket list or you may wish to create a response for each voice that you identify that stops it in it’s tracks!  Be curious and explore!

Also, you may like to put your affirmations on Post-Its and put them in various places so you will see them throughout the day such as on your mirror or on the dashboard of your car.

Until tomorrow.

Love & light,

Beth Shekinah


If you are enjoying this exploration of Writing To Heal, I invite you to join me and my Writing To Heal partner, Andrea Hylen for…

Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss & Change

A Heal My Voice 30-Day Writing Program (With Teleseminar Support)

September 21 – October 22, 2015

“Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.” ~ Rumi

Joining a Heal My Voice program is a bit like embarking on a vision quest.  It is a journey into the core of our being.  In traditional cultures, this is done through time alone in nature; in Heal My Voice our vehicle is writing.  The intention of the Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss & Change 30-Day Program is to create a space for exploring writing as a vehicle for transforming and healing.  During this time, you will have an opportunity to:

  • receive daily support for your writing for 30 days
  • explore your own life and uncover a story that wants to emerge
  • connect with a community of authentic women and men on a journey of self-exploration
  • get to know yourself more deeply to reclaim personal power
  • discover your inner gifts
  • alchemize your pain into remembrance, honoring and joy; and
  • explore or reconnect with the Heal My Voice program to see if our upcoming 9-month book program is a right for you!

Screen shot 2012-04-06 at 7.40.51 PMThis 30-Day program with teleseminar support offers an opportunity to get to know yourself on a deeper level through the Heal My Voice process of Listening, Discovering and Exploring.  As you take this time to reflect on grief, loss and change in your life, Heal My Voice facilitators Andrea Hylen and Beth Terrence will support you in uncovering and identifying experiences and stories that wish to be expressed through self-reflection, writing and community sharing.  This program creates a container for you to go within, gain insight into your life experiences and access the gifts that emerge as we shine a light on our tender places.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi

This 30-Day Program includes:

  • Three Weekly Teleclasses with exploration and discussion on grief, loss and change and transformation
  • HMV’s Sacred Sanctuary Writing Space (Audio recordings of inspiration and silence for writing)
  • 30-Days of prompts to inspire and jumpstart your writing
  • A Secret Facebook Group for sharing and discussion
  • BONUS CALL Audio: Tips on How to Write a Book (or E-book)
  • BONUS Fall Equinox Ceremony on the Phone. Live Call and Recorded. September 21: 12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/9pm Europe

Three Teleseminars. All Teleseminars are recorded.

Wednesdays, 12pm Pacific/3pm Eastern/9pm Europe (September 30, October 7, October 14)

Location: Accessible by Phone or Online Listening; Audio replay will be available

Cost: $97.00 for full 30-Day Program

Payment automatically Registers Your Email Address.

Facebook Group Opens on September 21.

See you then!

REGISTER NOW!

We will begin the program on Sept 21 by opening the doors to the secret Facebook group and by offering a Fall Equinox ceremony on the Instant Teleseminar Line. Come LIVE or listen to the recording.

Then, there will be 3 LIVE teleseminars with information sharing, meditations and community sharing. The calls will be recorded and available to everyone who is registered for the 30 days of writing.

Teleclass One: Listening: Wed, Sept 30 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern/ 21.00 Central European Time

Teleclass Two: Discovering: Wed, Oct 7 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern/ 21.00 Central European Time

Teleclass Three: Exploring: Wed, Oct 14 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern/ 21.00 Central European Time

7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge! Cultivating Self-Compassion ~ Day 2

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7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge

Cultivating Self-Compassion

Day 2

Today’s exploration will involve a form of writing called a catalog or list poem. By catalog poem, we simply mean a poem that looks like a list.  And, in case you’re already thinking you can’t write poetry, just know all you need to do is create a list of something.  Sometimes writing a list is a way to get out of our heads and into hearts, to slow down enough to hear our inner voices and to gain clarity about what we are feeling and experiencing.  I’m a big fan of list writing as a tool for healing and will share more about this as the week goes on.

Take a few moments to consider all the lists that we make – grocery lists, to do lists, wish lists, waiting lists, top ten lists, etc.  Think about how the order of the items that are on the lists matters in some cases, e.g. waiting lists and top ten lists are usually ordered by importance.  Grocery lists, wish lists and sometimes to do lists may be in order of how they are linked to other items (all the fruits, next all the vegetables, last all the cleaning supplies). And, sometimes, it really doesn’t matter at all!

Daily Prompt

Take a few moments to slow down and take some deeper breaths.  Once you feel centered, begin to make a list of 10 – 15 emotions or feelings that you are aware you experience.  Notice what comes right up and also be willing to move beyond the most obvious feelings (i.e., happiness, sadness, fear, etc.) toward some that are more complex or you might not like to admit you experience (i.e., guilt, frustration, resentment, shame, etc.).  This is a way to begin to cultivate greater self-compassion – by being open and honest with yourself about your feelings, you begin to love and accept yourself in a deeper way.

Out of this feelings list that you’ve just created, choose one emotion that feels strongest to you today.  You may wish to go down the list and circle or mark the one or ones that speak to you the most right now.  You can explore all of them going forward but choose just one for now.  Use this feeling or emotion as a prompt to make a more detailed list or catalog.  For example, “confusion about my life purpose”, “sadness about my friend moving away”, “resentment for how hard life has been for me”…  Use the same one emotion or feeling and write 10 – 15 ways that you experience it now or in the past.  

Here is a great example of a catalog or list poem about a single emotion or feeling.  It’s called “Fear” by Raymond Carver…

Fear
By Raymond Carver

Fear of seeing a police car pull into the drive.
Fear of falling asleep at night.
Fear of not falling asleep.
Fear of the past rising up.
Fear of the present taking flight.
Fear of the telephone that rings in the dead of night.
Fear of electrical storms.
Fear of the cleaning woman who has a spot on her cheek!
Fear of dogs I’ve been told won’t bite.
Fear of anxiety!
Fear of having to identify the body of a dead friend.
Fear of running out of money.
Fear of having too much, though people will not believe this.
Fear of psychological profiles.
Fear of being late and fear of arriving before anyone else.
Fear of my children’s handwriting on envelopes.
Fear they’ll die before I do, and I’ll feel guilty.
Fear of having to live with my mother in her old age, and mine.
Fear of confusion.
Fear this day will end on an unhappy note.
Fear of waking up to find you gone.
Fear of not loving and fear of not loving enough.
Fear that what I love will prove lethal to those I love.
Fear of death.
Fear of living too long.
Fear of death.
I’ve said that.

Additional ideas for working with lists or catalogs: 

  1. Create a feelings inventory listing all of your feelings.  You may wish to do a list of all positive feelings and all challenging ones (I don’t like the word negative around feelings as it tends to create a judgement that we shouldn’t feel that).  I do this every night as one part of my journaling process and it really helps me to get clear on what I am feeling and how I may need to support or care for myself the following day. 
  2. Make a list of all the awareness you have around your life overall or around a specific situation, relationship, etc. 
  3. Create a list of all of your positive actions for the day.  This can be helpful especially when you are having a hard day or not seeing your progress. 
  4. Look over the lists you’ve made and circle or highlight any words or phrases that pop out that you might like to explore more.  Make a list about each of those things…
  5. Create a list of all the lists it would be helpful for your to write, e.g. all your strengths, all your celebrations, all your challenges, all the supportive people in your life, etc. 
  6. Share your ideas for other list or catalog writing that you feel will be helpful as part of your writing to heal practice…

Until tomorrow!

Love & light,

Beth Shekinah

 

 

Join HOA’s 7-Day Writing To Heal Challenge! Cultivating Self-Compassion ~ Day 1

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7 Day Writing To Heal Challenge

Cultivating Self-Compassion

Day 1

Member-JournalingAs I have been diving into the preparation for the next session of Writing To Heal ~ Transforming Our Grief, Loss & Change 30-Day Online Writing Program, I felt called to share an introduction of writing to heal here on The Heart of Awakening Blog.  Writing has been a part of my personal healing journey since I was a teenager.  If I didn’t have the sacred space of my journal, what seemed at times to be my only true friend, I am not sure that I would have survived some of the life challenges I faced.

I’ve continued to write in the form of journaling, poetry, personal essay, and articles related to holistic healing and spirituality.  Some of my writing is more public but it is a practice that continues to be at the heart of my own healing journey. And, it is one I love to share with others in a variety of ways as a tool for transformation and healing.  I invite to join us here on The Heart of Awakening Blog for 7-Days of Writing To Heal.  Each day, I’ll be sharing some thoughts, reflections and a writing prompt or two for you to explore.  You may wish to go day by day or just come back to them whenever you feel drawn to.  It’s your journey!

We live in exciting times when science can help us to understand tools which have been long practiced. Recent scientific evidence has discovered that the act of writing actually accesses your left brain, which is the analytical and rational part.  When you begin writing, your left brain becomes more strongly engaged which then frees your right brain to create, intuit and feel more deeply.  So, in a sense, writing takes you out of your head and into your heart; that’s a big theme here on HOA! This shift allows you to use all of your brainpower to better understand yourself, others and the world around you. And is one reason why writing can be such a powerful tool for healing!

Writing and journaling can help you to:

  • Clarify your thoughts and feelings.
  • Know yourself better.
  • Reduce stress.
  • Be healthier.
  • Solve problems more effectively.
  • Resolve disagreements with others
  • Practice good self-care
  • Access your creativity
  • Release and Express Held Memories & Emotions
  • Set Intentions

You may be saying to yourself, “But, I’m not a writer, so how can writing or journaling work for me?”  There are many ways to explore journaling and many types of practices.  Writing offers an opportunity to explore who you are, what are your likes and dislikes, and your strengths and weaknesses.  It is a vehicle to find your voice and explore ways you can flow more easily with life.

Over the next 7 days, I’ll be sharing a variety of ways you can begin to use writing and journaling as a tool for healing.  Feel free to share in the comments your thoughts, feelings and reflections as well any other ways you might work with writing as a tool for healing.  I have chosen a theme for these 7 days that has been coming up strongly in my own personal work as well as my work with clients most recently – Cultivating Self-Compassion! Sometimes it may feel like we’ve done so much of that work and then suddenly it’s clear there is more to do. There are always deeper layers to explore!  As we discuss during annual May Is For Metta practice, it is in cultivating self-compassion that we create a foundation for offering it to others and the world.  And, so we our journey begins…


 

Day 1

You might like to take some time today to decide where you will write both physically in terms of your location, e.g. your desk, out on the deck, on a cozy chair in your living room, etc. And, also, in terms of your writing space such as in a notebook, journal or on your computer.  You may just like to play around with a few options during these 7 days to see what feels best for you.  Also, do you want to write first thing in the morning, before bedtime at night or at another point in the day.  I encourage you to be open, creative and explore.  

Each day I will be sharing a few prompts for you to use to spur your exploration in writing to heal.  This will include a variety of types of prompts so you can continue to create your own writing to heal process going forward.  Our theme for this week is on Cultivating Self-Compassion.  Here are some prompts to explore today…

Quotes ~ If you’ve followed HOA for any bit of time, you know that I absolutely love quotes! They inspire me in so many ways but I have found them to be particularly helpful when I want to begin writing on a certain theme or just need a thought to get my words flowing.  I have shared two quotes and prompts below on our theme of Cultivating Self-Compassion.  Feel free to use the prompts or just write stream of consciousness on what arises as you consider the quotes…

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
― Gautama Buddha

When you read the Buddha’s words, what thoughts and feelings arise?  Do you feel you are deserving of your own love and compassion?  What have you been taught about loving yourself?  Are there any negative messages you have received about cultivating self-compassion like it’s selfish or wrong?  Are you willing to begin to cultivate self-compassion in a bigger way? If not, what’s stopping you?

“Having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.” Pema Chodron

Make a list of all the parts of yourself that you are aware of need more self-compassion. Perhaps there are some wounded parts, your inner children or maybe some parts you just don’t like to see.  Begin to write stream of consciousness or create a list of any parts of yourself that you think might need a big dose of love and compassion.  Be willing to list any feelings, patterns and beliefs that you might like to keep hidden, even from yourself.  This is a way to bring light to the shadow parts of ourselves.  Be gently and loving with yourself as you explore…

Feel free to share your thoughts and reflections in the comments below.

See you tomorrow!

Love & light,

Beth Shekinah