“Grief is a most peculiar thing; we’re so helpless in the face of it. It’s like a window that will simply open of its own accord. The room grows cold, and we can do nothing but shiver. But it opens a little less each time, and a little less; and one day we wonder what has become of it.” ~ Arthur Golden
I have been feeling to bring Star Of Bethlehem into the monthly posts and now is the perfect time as the energy and support it brings can really be of benefit this time of year. As I shared in my recent post, Autumn Tips For Happy & Healthy Living, this season is one that can bring feelings of sadness, loss and grief to the surface. Dr. Edward Bach, creator of the Bach Flower Remedies, referred to Star of Bethlehem as “the comforter and soother of pain and sorrows”. It is one the five remedies that is part of the well-known Rescue Remedy®, which is the only pre-made composite Bach Flower Remedy designed for use in emergencies and for acute stress and it is an essential part of any holistic medicine cabinet.
In the Bach Flower System, there is a category of remedies that are indicated for Despondency and Despair; Star of Bethlehem is in that group. This can also be defined as remedies that may support “depressive feelings”. I say “depressive feelings” because in the Bach Flower System and other holistic modalities, we do not treat a specific disease or condition such as depression or diabetes, but we focus on the whole person. As Dr. Bach would say, “We treat the person, not the disease.” These types of feelings or traits are an indicator of where a person is experiencing some type of imbalance or disharmony that needs to be addressed.
In determining what Bach Flower Remedies would best support a person, the practitioner and client work collaboratively to identify emotional states and personality traits that are present at the surface. It is by addressing this outer layer of experience – i.e. what is at the surface or being experienced on a daily basis that we begin to access where a person is out of harmony with their soul and ultimately, the greater whole. The remedies help to soothe our imbalances and like beautiful music, bring in vibrations that harmonize our being. As we address one layer, then another will surface, bringing to light others areas that are in need of attention and healing.
In my own healing journey and my work with others as a practitioner over the last 15 years, I have found Star Of Bethlehem to be one that is often needed. Star of Bethlehem is indicated when there are feelings of sorrow, grief, sadness or loss at the surface as well as when there are old losses coming up that we have not grieved. Also, as the remedy of shock and trauma, Star Of Bethlehem is highly beneficial for anyone who has experienced trauma, and although it is this can occur in varying degrees, most people have experienced some shock or trauma that has gone unresolved in their lives.
Trauma can exist on all levels – body, mind, emotion and spirit. And, it is something that creates an imprint in our being that often stays with us until we attend to it. Some traumas resolve themselves naturally, however, it is not uncommon for those energetic imprints to remain and lie dormant until something triggers a re-awakening signaling it is time to be resolved. This is often experienced when we have a loss occur and the new feelings arising tap into the great pool of unresolved loss we tend to carry within ourselves.
We may think of this only in terms of emotional trauma, but this can even be seen in the case of physical traumas or injuries when suddenly the pain or restriction of an old football injury or childhood accident resurfaces. And, from many of the case studies of Dr. Bach, it was seen that unresolved shock and trauma on any level might later manifest into a physical condition. Star Of Bethlehem is the remedy indicated to help resolve these patterns that may be affecting us on many levels.
Dr. Bach shared the following words about the Star Of Bethlehem remedy:
“For those in great distress, under conditions which for a time produce great unhappiness. The shock of serious news, the loss of someone dear, the fright following an accident and such like. For those who for a time refuse to be consoled, this remedy brings comfort.”
Here are some questions to see if Star Of Bethlehem may be beneficial for you at this time:
- Are you experiencing feelings of sorrow, grief, sadness or loss?
- Have you had a recent loss or one from the past that you are still struggling with?
- Do you have a tendency toward feeling despondent?
- Have you experienced trauma or abuse?
- Are you working to resolve the effects of past trauma or PTSD?
- Are you in a state of shock or numbness?
- Do you feel a sense of agony that comes from what you have experienced?
- Are you in a grief period or in the process of healing or grieving prior losses?
- Do you feel like you carry a thread of sadness that won’t leave?
- Are you experiencing a seasonal type of depression with feelings of sadness, loss and grief bubbling up?
Star Of Bethlehem has many benefits that support our ability to move through shock, trauma and loss. Here are some of the ways this remedy can provide support:
- Neutralizes shock in any form, current or past, from bad news, accidents, losses, etc.
- Helps to clear and release trauma
- Eases feelings of sorrow, grief, sadness and loss
- Supports inner child healing
- Brings us a deep sense of comfort
- Helps to bring us back into the body and awaken us after shock or trauma
In thinking about losses, we tend to focus on the loss that comes through a death. It is important to consider that there are many types of losses that can affect us – the loss of relationship, a job, a home, or a phase of life. Even when we have an experience that is positive, such as getting married or having a child, it is possible that we feel some sense of loss due to the change in our lives. It is natural to need to give some time and space to the feelings of loss that may arise in response to the constantly changing aspects of our lives. In these cases, Star Of Bethlehem can provide a support as can Walnut, which helps us to ease through our transitions.
Also, I’d just like to mention that Star Of Bethlehem can be highly beneficial for animals that have suffered any type of abuse or trauma. In my work with Rescue animals, their histories are often uncertain. Whether they have experienced abuse in their prior situation or merely the trauma of being moved from one situation to another, Star Of Bethlehem can support them. Rescue Remedy is always a good starting point for “Rescue” animals, but treatment with Star Of Bethlehem can be a great support in the resolving the trauma an animal may be carrying and can help them to settle into a new situation with greater ease.
I’d love to hear your experiences with Star Of Bethlehem or any thoughts, reflections or questions that may arise in response to the post.